I suggested that someone thank two people. (The two had been helpful to him.) I thought he’d be thankful for my suggestion. Instead, he bristled, “No one is better at gratitude than I am.”
He was angry at my suggestion. I thought I was being helpful, but I hurt his pride.
Does it mean I shouldn’t make suggestions?
When you tell others what ‘should’ happen, you create resistance. Position creates opposition. As an alternative, offer what you think is right and then let it go. Just watch what happens. And don’t fear adversity. Sometimes it is the only way to grow. Of course, you don’t court adversity, but when it occurs – learn from it.
What I learned (hopefully) is that when you make a suggestion, you need to be careful about when you make it, how you say it, and to whom. – Shar McBee
P.S. The last message was about how gratitude can help you to gain support. I received “Thank YOU” emails from 14 of you. (One email was negative.) It’s interesting how something as agreeable as gratitude can arouse such strong reactions!