What happens when you build something into a success, and then others step in and ruin it?

by admin on February 2, 2012

When I was young I organized a voter registration drive that grew HUGE.  We had hundreds of volunteers and enormous enthusiastic participation.  Then the “experts” decided they should take over.  We were pushed aside. 

Not surprisingly, everything fell apart under the new regime. We should have been able to step back in at that point, but we couldn’t.  Here’s why:

When we found ourselves losing ground, we didn’t remain composed and respectful.  There was a big confrontational meeting. We got angry.  When you get angry you give away your power. It’s almost impossible to get it back.

If you find yourself losing ground, this is what I suggest:  Tactful reserve.  Be cautious.  Remain mindful of the end.  If you can stay composed and respectful, when time passes you can get your power back. – Shar McBee

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Music and Leadership

by admin on January 17, 2012

Music has the power to ease tension within the heart.  Since the beginning of time, leaders have made use of this natural ability of music to move hearts and draw people together.

You can use music to loosen the grip of painful emotions.  I learned this from a tennis coach.  Maybe it will be useful to you.

When you make a mistake, a bad shot, or hear a mean comment, it is easy to lose your concentration.  Instead, my coach said, “Sing!”  (Not out loud, of course, but in your heart.)  Try it.  It is amazing how quickly the sound of music can jerk you out of pain and back into the moment.  “The hills are alive with….”    – Shar McBee

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When people are hostile toward you, do you know the 3 “R’s”?

January 5, 2012

When people are rude or hostile toward you, do you retreat or do you run?  I was taught the difference at a time when someone was being mean to me and I felt angry.  Anger makes you weak and gives the power to the other person. Instead, learn how to retreat. Run – Don’t run [...]

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When you are new in your position – 3 Tips

December 16, 2011

 You may have the “title” of leader, but feel like an outsider.  Others have formed a group and you remain isolated. What do you do? 1.  Ally yourself with someone who is closer to the center of the group. It will eventually help you gain admission to the closed circle. 2.   Some people will attach [...]

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Back Stabbing? How to deal with Stress

December 1, 2011

Gossips and traitors do not vanish on their own.  You have to do something (even if you are naturally inclined to leniency.)  Think of nature.  Thunder releases tension in the atmosphere.  But then things quickly return to normal.  When you are biting through something tough, you have to bite hard, but then return to normal [...]

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Do you have these 2 Great Powers?

November 10, 2011

We often think of a leader as the one who is leading the charge.  Shakespeare’s Henry V spurs his men forward into action with a rallying call, “Band of Brothers.”  Henry is considered a great leader for his motivating power.  There is another form of great power that leaders need, too.  It doesn’t make an [...]

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